The work load never ends. Someone told me a few months ago "hang in there Chell, in a few months you will be looking for things to keep ya busy" I would like to find him and bitch slap him for getting my hopes up!!
My teenage daughter has marked me as the enemy in her life. I knew it was coming, as I think all of us strong willed independant women prolly went thru this metamorphosis of psychosis at one point in our adolesense. My meer existance is the trigger. I can't speak, move or breath to satisfy her. She is almost 14 so my brain has apparently shrunk now and fell out my ear hole when I wasn't looking. Her response to the annoyance that is moi? Sarcasm, eye-rolling, muttered words of hatred and of course the inability to speak to me or at me in a normal tone of voice. Obviously I am the problem in the whole situation. As I am just too stupid of an idiot to have anything of use to say. And my nagging is just a horrible inconvenience to her life as the perfect teenager.
I am currently exercising my parental annoyingness. Today at 1:00pm I recieved a call from her school that she was too sick with her head cold to remain at school. I phoned work and took the rest of the afternoon off so I could go bring her home to rest. Now that school time is over, she is feeling better and wants to attend Youth Group. Being the mean idiot, I told her that she needs to stay home and rest and not infect her friends. Her response? "Oh, I never wanted to come home. I just wanted to stay in the clinic until P E was over. But since YOU wouldn't talk to me on the phone and just came to get me. I am going!" (followed by a stomp to the bathroom where she is now in the shower)
So now I have a decision to make! Is this a battle worth fighting? Do I inforce the rule that missing school removes you from all evening activities. If I take this stance, my night will be a living hell. Filled with sulking and looks that could kill. Or do I give in and let her go, just to get a freakin nights peace out of it??
posted by: surrogate (reply)
post date: 02.07.06 (6:31 am)
Well, rest assured this will all be over in about 10 years and the last few of them will be far milder. For now? Yipes. I'm the wrong guy. I tried to be the rule enforcer when my daughter was that age and it didn't help. It's really been a strange transformation the last few years... My brain has returned to it's home cavity through that MY earhole and everything! Maybe try the "look, it's not worth having a war with you over every tliitle thing approach, but if you won't respect my authority, remember how it will affect my ability to trust you when you NEED my permission for things... like driving, or trips... Your choice now perhaps. My choice then."
Who knows. I sure don't.
posted by: surrogate (reply)
post date: 02.07.06 (6:32 am)
by the way, check the format of your blog... it's acting up.
